The world condones fornication . . . touching a woman, that is, having carnal knowledge of . . . having sex OUTSIDE of marriage! Of course, the world says it’s okay to test drive before making the decision to marry . . . to sow wild oats (to have numerous sexual relationships) . . . to shack up (to be sexually intimate without being married; to be in a live-in situation) . . . to seek sex from prostitutes . . . to be in a incestuous relationship, and so forth. The world also says that it’s okay to be on the Down Low and still have sex with women . . . to live a homosexual and/or a lesbian lifestyle . . . to have sex with animals (bestiality) . . . to touch yourself for the purpose of sexually pleasing yourself through masturbation, and so forth.
Well, the world is dead wrong, but the sad truth is that many secular Christians also condone these, and other kinds, of sexual immorality! These Christians are secular, because they are trying to go in two different directions at the same time. They are following opposing doctrines: (1.) the secular humanism doctrine, which disregards or rejects any form of religious faith and worship . . . denies the need for God and His moral principles to be present in order for a civilized society to function . . . promotes a man-centered worldly spirit; and (2.) the Christian doctrine, which believes in and trusts in the revealed Word of God, God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, the Trinity, the Gospel, resurrection, salvation, sanctification, damnation, the supernatural, and more . . . accepts that there is a need for God and His moral principles to be present in order for a civilized society to function . . . promotes a Christ-centered godly spirit.
Now, there are many differences between a faithful Christian and a secular Christian, but primarily the faithful Christians ceaselessly are walking in their Redeemer’s footsteps; they are laying down their lives, daily—presenting their bodies as a living sacrifice, as a result of daily renewing their minds (cf. Romans 12:1-2), while secular Christians (or unfaithful Christians) are either returning to sin again “like a sow to her wallowing in the mire” (2 Peter 2:22.), or they are not exercising sufficient faith and courage, because they do not have a sufficient amount of the Master’s character. They are in bondage to their fear of the sacrificial death (cf. Hebrews 2:15).
Where sexual conduct is concerned, there is no doubt that secular Christians follow the humanistic view. For the humanists, their standards of sexual conduct are based on their human experiences, and since personal pleasure is the principal standard by which most humanists determine their sexual conduct, then it is reasonable to expect that they would permit total freedom from sexual restraints, except for those sexual restraints that each consenting person might prefer. Similarly, like humanists, secular Christians often determine that it is very right to please themselves in any given situation in which the opportunity presents itself for them to fornicate or be sexually immoral (i.e., participate in the act of adultery, idolatry, incest, bestiality, homosexuality, lesbianism, or self-stimulation, and so forth).
The problem here is that secular Christians (or worldly Christians) have failed to understand that they have become the kind of people James calls “…adulterous people” for they “don’t…know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God” (James 4:4). For the record, even believers can be God’s enemy if they are not living a life in which the Holy Spirit governs their minds, but rather they are living a life in which their flesh directs their minds (cf. Romans 8:5-8). The Word of God is clear on this flesh issue, as God through the Apostle Paul says:
For the desires of the flesh are opposed to the [Holy] Spirit, and the [desires of the] Spirit are opposed to the flesh (godless human nature); for these are antagonistic to each other [continually withstanding and in conflict with each other], so that you are not free but are prevented from doing what you desire to do. ~ Galatians 5:17, AMP
This contemporary struggle with the flesh and the Spirit is apparent in the very popular but controversial “Single, Saved, and Sexin’: The Gospel of Gettin’ Your Freak On,” a blog entry posted in February 2011 on The Crunk Feminist Collective blog. In this entry, the author writes:
At my former church, I spent at least one Friday a month, hanging with the dynamic, beautiful, thoughtful, educated sisters of faith who did ministry work. These women were not stuffy; they were totally real: about how lonely it is without someone; about how they never saw themselves at 35 or 40 still being alone with no prospects; about how frustrating the prospect of perpetual celibacy is. … And because these women believed strongly in the Bible as a rule book, no extramarital expressions of sexuality are permitted, not even masturbation.
…So while I love these women and while I believe we love the same God, I do not love their sexual ethics. I do not think one can live and thrive in them. For me, Christianity is too much about grace, too much about freedom to engender the continual guilt, frustration, and anxiety, which I continually confronted merely for expressing my sexual selfhood. Surely there must be a better way.
But when it comes to the sex life of the single Christian, it’s hard to take the Bible as the gospel truth, because for us, their ain’t no good news in it….
This author does not deny that there are God-fearing individuals who still follow the biblical standards that pertain to sexual morality. In fact, she even confesses that she loves the faithful God-fearing women in her former church, and she continues to voice her opinions in this gentle vein until after she admits: “I do not love their sexual ethics.” Her confession sheds light on why she failed to live holy while single—she is living the life of a secular Christian. Her worldly lifestyle, which is based on her standards of sexual conduct, proves the Word of God is true about believers befriending the world by adopting the ways of the world. She struggled with the Spirit and her flesh before she gave in to her needs, and she struggles still, this time with Father God Himself, because He says through James: “…anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God” (James 4:4b).
As already mentioned, the world condones sex outside of marriage, and it is clear that what this author wants is for Christ’s Body of Believers to condone sex outside of marriage, too. She seems to believe that if the “church” had a more sexually permissive attitude for those individuals who do not have the power (self-discipline) and/or the desire to exercise complete abstention from sexual activity before marriage then so many women would be “free” to be themselves. The only problem with this stinking – thinking is that the Word of God says that “…the desires of the flesh are opposed to the [Holy] Spirit, and the [desires of the] Spirit are opposed to the flesh (godless human nature)” ~ Galatians 5:17!
For sure, it was her struggle between Spirit and flesh that has her blaming the “church,” the Word of God, faithful saints, and, if she could, anybody, except her own self, for why she did not keep God’s holy standards. Because she failed, she came to the conclusion that there is nobody who really can live the way God commands and “thrive.”
The Divine Truth is that Father God is the ONE who designed the acceptable sexual conduct behind the “sexual ethics” the faithful God-fearing women she admires follow, and this same God is the ONE she implies she loves. Even though she knows that the God she loves created sex for marriage, she seems to feel that, despite the fact “some” women have decided that “doing it God’s way is best,” women faithful to God’s commands cannot remain celibate indefinitely, because it is impossible to “live and thrive” without having sex, either with a partner or with one’s own self. Indeed, the author appears to be saying that today’s believers only have two options: (1.) try to keep God’s standards and end up suffering a miserably, lonely and sexually frustrated life; or (2.) abandon His standards and be set free from all the “…guilt, frustration, and anxiety…” that keep women from being able to communicate their individual “sexual selfhood.”
There is so much wrong with her thinking that to deal with everything would take too long. Focus here will be on living a Christian lifestyle’s basics that she seems to have forgotten.
First, the power that is able to keep every woman and man from falling into sexual temptation—from giving in to his or her sexual urges while living a single life—is the Holy Spirit. Without the aid of the Holy Spirit, no one will have the power to “live and thrive” in this promiscuous, self-gratifying, and avaricious world, because all around us are “…the lust of the flesh [craving for sensual gratification] and the lust of the eyes [greedy longings of the mind] and the pride of life [assurance in one's own resources or in the stability of earthly things]” (1 John 2:16)!
Secondly, sex outside of marriage is unacceptable to God, PERIOD! Thus, anyone who thinks that God will tolerate His children’s choice to yield to the world’s looser (more relaxed) sexual conduct standards has been deceived. As sovereign God, the Creator decided that sex would be for married couples, not only for procreative purposes but also for physical enjoyment. Then too, He made sex for marriage so that the sexual relationship between a husband and wife would be an example of the deepest intimacy humans could achieve.
Contrary to popular opinions, the Bible STILL teaches that God prefers individuals to have the self-discipline to exercise complete abstention from sexual activity before marriage. From Genesis 2:24 to Matthew 19:5, to 1 Corinthians 6:16, and Ephesians 5:31-32, God makes it apparent that once a man and woman “…become united…they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24, AMP). There can be no doubt that God is saying that each couple (consisting of one man and one woman) will become one flesh (one body) through sexual intercourse. For this reason, God’s marriage law only allows this oneness to be between a husband and a wife. Certainly, this oneness is more than just a metaphorical oneness, for this oneness is both physical AND spiritual!
Therefore, based on God’s marriage law, it also is obvious that in God’s view there is NO SUCH thing as pre-marital sex, for SEX is meant for married couples (the unions between ONE husband and ONE wife), and them ONLY! Thus, the pre-marital sex standard is nothing more than the world’s attempt to separate sex FROM marriage. Be that as it may, God’s Word makes it very clear that every act of fornication or sexual immorality (PORNEIA), which primarily refers to prostitution, adultery (both physical and spiritual), and/or abominations like lesbianism, homosexuality, incest, idolatry, and bestiality, happens outside of the marriage contract! Perhaps the fact that there is no such thing as pre-marital sex is why, whenever Jesus the Christ is speaking about marriage, the Lord always uses the Greek word PORNEIA to describe a married person’s sexual conduct that has caused him or her to sin against his or her own body!
Furthermore, it is logical to conclude that when the Apostle Paul says to: “Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18, AMP) that he very well could be including masturbation under the sexual immorality category—sin committed against the body. Since masturbation is sexual, in that masturbation only can be achieved by stimulating sexually responsive parts of the body like the genitals, then masturbation, which, more often than not, involves sexual fantasies and pornography, must be seen as a kind of sex outside of marriage. Therefore, like any one of the aforesaid sexual sins that fall under the umbrella of PORNEIA, masturbation also must be included, for it too is a sin committed against the body.
Then too, since God desires that the focus in a marital relationship should be on the husband and wife pleasing each other, and since masturbation is the self-stimulation of the sex organs, that is to say, the focus of masturbation is on pleasing oneself, then without a doubt, masturbation goes against God’s biblical plan for couples meeting the sexual needs of one another, because masturbation denies a marriage partner his or her physical enjoyment. Now, even though a spouse can masturbate with the help of a partner, usually masturbation is self-stimulation performed by various types of bodily contact or by using objects or tools, or some combination of these methods. Therefore, the bottom line is that some masturbating single individuals, who eventually marry, often have ruined their appetite for having sex with their marriage partner, because often the self-serving mindset they had before they married has remained with them and is the reason why pleasing themselves sexually, without involving the God-designed intimacy from their spouse, could become the preferred way some married masturbators achieve sexual release.
Be that as it may, by God’s Divine wisdom, marriage, and the comforts of that state, have been settled! No matter how hard people might try, they cannot change the absolute Divine Truth about any kind of sex that happens outside of the marriage being unacceptable to God. Christians, thus, cannot live contrary to God’s established sexual conduct and not expect to suffer the consequences of their decisions. The Bible is very clear about fornication or sexual immorality. The Apostle Paul writes:
The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but [is intended] for the Lord, and the Lord [is intended] for the body [to save, sanctify, and raise it again]. …Shun immorality and all sexual looseness [flee from impurity in thought, word, or deed]. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, ~ 1 Corinthians 6:13b and 18-19, AMP
In the above verses, the word “immorality” (“fornication” in other English translations) is used for the Greek New Testament word PORNEIA, from which the English word “pornography” also is derived (and pornography entices people to think, to look, and to please themselves). Even though pornography comes from the Greek word PORNEIA, it is interesting that the modern-day understanding of pornography doesn’t convincingly correspond to the biblical understanding of PORNEIA (fornication or sexual immorality).
Then again, where PORNEIA (fornication or sexual immorality) is concerned, most people would not interpret the Word of God as being permissive about illicit sexual intercourse, such as prostitution, adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, incest, idolatry, and so forth. In fact, where the debate in favor of PORNEIA being forbidden finds its clearest Scriptural evidence is in this verse: “For this is the will of God, that you should be consecrated (separated and set apart for pure and holy living): that you should abstain and shrink from all sexual vice” (1 Thessalonians 4:3 AMP).
Without a doubt, most of the problems people have with the kinds of sex PORNEIA refers to usually arise when the Bible is silent about a particular sexual issue, and these problems invariably include believers thinking that the Bible’s silence on ANY subject automatically makes that issue acceptable. What many believers and non-believers fail to understand is that the Bible does not present itself as an exhaustive text on any one subject; but since the Word of God has been written under the guidance and inspiration of God, then where the Bible touches on any subject the Word of God teaches the absolute and unalterable Divine Truth.
The sad truth is that it often is difficult for some believers, as well as non-believers, to comprehend that it is just as scandalous to call something A SIN that God, in His Word, specifically DOES NOT call A SIN, as it is to say something is NOT A SIN that God, in His Word, specifically say IS A SIN! That being said, it also is important to know that there are those believers who have concluded that since the Bible does not say that masturbation IS a sin then it must be okay with God for them to masturbate. The flaw in this thinking is these believers are assuming that God is giving them the green light to masturbate, principally, in lieu of fornicating or committing sexual immorality, when the Divine Truth is that God never says that masturbation IS NOT a sin!
True enough, the Bible does not clearly declare that masturbation is a sin, but once again silence DOES NOT automatically give consent. The truth is that the Bible is silent on many matters, for example, it also does not declare that discriminating against Blacks is a sin, or that killing abortion doctors is a sin, or that lynching homosexuals is a sin, yet the Bible’s silence does not stop some people from declaring that their discriminating, killing, and/or lynching actions are morally justified—that they can treat anyone they please this way, if they believe that person deserves such treatment. However, the Divine Truth is that even though the Bible doesn’t flat out state some behaviors are sins, through inference, that is, by drawing a conclusion or choosing the most likely explanation from the facts at hand, believers can conclude that discriminating against Blacks, killing abortion doctors, and lynching homosexuals are, indeed, sins.
Inference works as follows. The Scriptures tell believers that it is a sin to show favoritism and a sin to treat anybody unjustly or discriminatorily. Therefore, every kind of racial discrimination also is a sin (cf. Micah 6:8; 1 Corinthians 12:13; Galatians 3:28; Ephesians 2:14-15; and James 2:9). The Scriptures tell believers that they are not to kill anyone; therefore, killing abortion doctors is a sin, and, since lynching is the unlawful premeditated killing of a human being, lynching is also a sin (cf. Genesis 9:6; Exodus 20:13; Exodus 21:12; Deuteronomy 5:17; Leviticus 24:17, 21b; Matthew 5:21; Mark 10:19; Luke 18:20; Romans 13:9; and James 2:11).
Likewise, in the following example of inference, believers can know that masturbation is a sin, even though God does not actually call masturbation a sin in the Scriptures. What He does say in His Word, however, is that the only people who can experience sexual satisfaction and fulfillment are those who are in a marital relationship. From this biblical fact, believers can infer that in any situation in which a man or a woman is focusing on pleasing him or herself sexually (masturbating), he or she has opened his or her mind up to lustful thinking. Masturbation, thus, is sex outside of marriage, because the Word of God teaches that a person who looks on another to lust after that person has committed adultery, and the Word of God teaches that lustful thinking is sinful. Additionally, the Word of God teaches that believers should have ONLY pure thoughts (see, Matthew 5:27-28; Matthew 15:19, Philippians 4:8; and James 1:14-15! Thus, by using inference, the Bible can condemn a certain kind of behavior without ever directly mentioning it!
Furthermore, while no one can claim to know the mind of God, the Scriptures tell believers that they have the mind of Christ, which is probably why God’s Word clearly does declare that it is extremely important to God that believers keep their minds and their bodies pure. Indeed, Romans chapter 1 teaches that God has given mankind a natural knowledge of right and wrong, but when people reject the knowledge of God, by choosing instead to exalt man and practice idolatry, then their behaviors are evidence that proves their mind has become impure or depraved. The Apostle Paul also insists in Romans chapter 1 that humans’ “vile affections and degrading passions” (Romans 1:26, AMP) definitely angered God until He abandoned both men and women:
…in the lusts of their [own] hearts to sexual impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves [abandoning them to the degrading power of sin], Because they exchanged the truth of God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator….(Romans 1:24-25, AMP)
Thus, men and women’s unnatural and indecent passions (sexual immorality) will result in them dishonoring God with their minds and with their bodies!
Where pure minds and pure bodies are concerned, in the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus the Christ says: “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-28, NKJV). Later on in the Book of Matthew, Jesus the Christ also says: “For out of the heart come evil thoughts (reasonings and disputings and designs) such as murder, adultery, sexual vice, theft, false witnessing, slander, and irreverent speech” ~ Matthew 15:19. Then in James 1:14-15, believers learn that:
…every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.
It must be noted here that, even though Jesus the Christ and James speak of “a man” looking at a woman to lust for her, and a man being “baited by his own evil desire,” a woman also can be guilty of looking on a man to lust for him, and guilty of being tempted by her own desires. The important message, then, in the above-cited verses accredited to Jesus and James is that thinking lustful thoughts is just as sinful as committing physical and spiritual sins! Moreover, the above-cited verses also make it clear that lustful thoughts give birth to sinful ACTIONS, and that, when sinful actions are allowed to grow, they will bring death.
It is quite clear that pleasing oneself sexually also would go against the teaching found in Philippians 4:8, 1 Corinthians 7:2, Matthew 5:28, and several other passages in God’s Word. What’s more, since the goal of the Christian life is to be pure in thought and deed, then the Scriptures pertaining to lustful thoughts being impure and, therefore, sinful not only make it unmistakable that when masturbation involves sexual fantasies and/or pornography, as it often does, masturbation is an impure and sinful thought and action. The Scriptures pertaining to lustful thoughts being impure and, therefore, sinful also make it clear that masturbation often is a stumbling block (sin) that will keep believers from achieving the aforesaid goal of the Christian life.
Again, God never directly states that masturbation is a sin, but by using inference, based on what the Bible does say about related sexual issues, believers can wisely apply the principles found in Scriptures pertaining to those related sexual issues to the subject of masturbation. In essence, believers can understand how the Bible can condemn a certain kind of behavior without ever directly mentioning it!
Returning back again to the “Single, Saved, and Sexin’: The Gospel of Gettin’ Your Freak On” blog entry, the author concludes thusly:
I don’t want the good stuff, sexual or otherwise, to elude me while I’m over here dutifully following the rules, so I’ve actively and painfully gone in search of a better way, filled with life affirming principles and enough grace to let me enjoy my life and some good sex, too. ‘Cause frankly, now that I’m over 30, getting some, getting it good, and getting it on a regular basis is non-negotiable.
Her attitude toward God’s design for sex is appalling and dangerously apostate. Moreover, the fact that so many people are trusting that this author knows the Bible and trusting that she is giving them God’s Divine Truth on the issue of having sex outside of marriage is frightening. Her attitude is why it is possible that she is a secular Christian, because only a secular Christian would flat out deny that he or she needs GOD and HIS life-affirming principles in order to have the best way to function in this dying and sin-sick world. Indeed, only a secular Christian would consider his or her personal sexual experiences as being the sexual conduct standards that determine what, if any, sexual restraints he or she will follow, instead of God’s Word.
Whether she knows it or not, God has given believers the inspired Bible so that they will be able to accurately know that which is good, true, and holy. He also has given believers the Bible so that they might know the mind and will of God, so that they might teach, correct, rebuke, and train in God’s righteousness, and so that their “good” works might be pleasing in the sight of God. An example of how God uses His Word to teach, correct, rebuke, and/or train in God’s righteousness is what the Apostle Paul writes about the “grace” the author says will let her “…enjoy [her] life and some good sex, too.” Paul says:
WHAT SHALL we say [to all this]? Are we to remain in sin in order that God’s grace (favor and mercy) may multiply and overflow? Certainly not! How can we who died to sin live in it any longer?” ~ Romans 6:1-2
For these reasons, and others, it is important that believers understand that they MUST trust, follow, and obey God’s Word, and they must know that His word on SEX is that it ONLY is for married couples! Where this subject is concerned, God’s authority is non-negotiable, and God is unapologetic about that!
Since marriage is the ONLY relationship in which men and women might have sex, the Apostle Paul says that the men and women who do not have the self-discipline to exercise complete abstention from sexual activity could avoid the sin of fornication (sexual immorality or PORNEIA) by getting married. The ugly truth about marriage is as follows: If Christian spiritual leaders would teach marriage the way the Bible does, then perhaps many of the problems with various sexual acts and uncleanness could be avoided.
Unfortunately, what has become the norm in the “institutional church” is weak and/or fallen Christians have given in to the world’s sinful definitions pertaining to pre-marital sex so that they could satisfy their own lusts. As a result, instead of impacting the world with biblical truths, these weak and fallen Christians within the “institutional church” have perverted the true biblical doctrine of marriage to serve their own needs! Such is the case with the author of “Single, Saved, and Sexin’: The Gospel of Gettin’ Your Freak On.”
At some point in believers’ lives, especially when they are dealing with a subject about which the Bible is silent, Christians are going to have to realize that they have another creditable source to use. God has given believers His Holy Spirit, and the Holy Spirit is the ONE who reveals ALL TRUTH! Believers, therefore, can rest assured that the Holy Spirit will speak to them, confirming for them whether or not certain liberties are all right to pursue. The Holy Spirit also will let believers know if they are living right—if they are pleasing God by dedicating their bodies as a living sacrifice, which is their reasonable service and spiritual worship (cf. Romans 12:1).
Then too, the Holy Spirit will convict believers and unbelievers of sin, so if someone is walking in the Holy Spirit, or if someone still is living a carnal life (still a spiritual baby) and his or her conscience has not been seared (defiled . . . filled with ungodly thoughts, words, and actions), the Holy Spirit surely will let these believers know if their sexual conduct lines up with the Word and Will of God. Thus, if believers are pleasing themselves, paying for sex, practicing idolatry by way of having sex with temple prostitutes so that they can receive favorable blessings, sowing wild oats, committing adultery, committing acts of lesbianism, homosexuality and/or bestiality, living on the Down Low, shacking up, committing incest, and so forth, the Holy Spirit will convict them of their sin(s), teach them God’s Divine Truths, correct them, possibly rebuke them, and train them in God’s righteousness so that they can deepen their spiritual growth and progress in their sanctification process.
Besides teaching believers all truths, the Holy Spirit guides believers in every area of life, from the words they should speak, to the spouse they should marry, to the investments they should make. He reminds believers of the Word. He helps believers to pray accurately and effectively. He intercedes on believers’ behalf. He tells believers about things to come. He glorifies Jesus the Christ, and He declares to believers the things of Jesus the Christ. He abides with believers. He encourages believers. He brings new life and healing to believers. Finally, He empowers and endows believers with supernatural power and spiritual gifts—He gives believers not only everything they need to help them be witnesses but also everything they need to help them stay the course!
Concerning the people who have a seared conscience, these are the individuals whom the Holy Spirit cannot minister to in any of the above-mentioned ways. The people who have a seared conscience, thus, have a conscience that does not function as God created it to function, for it has been altered and can no longer operate in God’s type of holiness and righteousness. Thus, seared-conscience individuals are those people who are judging themselves to be either right or wrong, without being made aware of any accusations, convictions of guilt, and/or condemnations. In other words, they are judging the Bible instead of letting the Bible judge them. As a result, these seared-conscience individuals will display ungodly attitudes or they will be looking elsewhere for the proper authority over their life instead of looking to God and His Bible! Put differently, seared-conscience individuals are bona fide apostates! These are those whom God has given over to their reprobate minds. According to the Apostle Paul, seared-conscience people:
…hold a form of piety (true religion), [but] they deny and reject and are strangers to the power of it [their conduct belies the genuineness of their profession]. Avoid [all] such people [turn away from them]. …They have depraved and distorted minds, and are reprobate and counterfeit and to be rejected as far as the faith is concerned. ~ 2 Timothy 3:5, 8b, AMP
Finally, if you are a secular Christian and you do not want your conscience to become seared, and you also do not want to experience being abandoned by God who will give you over to your reprobate mind, then instead of condoning and living in a sexually immoral lifestyle, you must hate the things of this world, especially those that pertain to the world’s definition of pre-marital sex and extramarital relationships, because they go against God’s inspired Word, which is the Bible. By severing your ties to this world, you also will rid yourself of the characteristics that have caused you to be labeled as a secular Christian, which is an oxymoron.
You can achieve this freedom from your current bondage by honestly repenting your sexual sins, genuinely seeking forgiveness, and immediately agreeing to cooperate with the Holy Spirit—to let Him do His sanctifying work in you. When you show God that you are truly serious about restoring your son or daughter relationship with Him, you soon will discover, anew, that God’s forgiveness is automatic, immediate, and complete! Don’t pass up this chance for you to be delivered, healed, and made whole . . . .
A word to the wise should be sufficient. Peace!