For the people who think that parents of a deceased son or daughter should get over their loss (should stop grieving) after a few months, I want you to know that their ‘missing a child’ feeling never goes away. This truth means their grief has no expiration date. Furthermore, because a piece of these grieving parents is gone (lost forever), these parents will never be the same again.
To believe that we aren’t supposed to suffer is just us deluding ourselves—setting ourselves up for a Humpty-Dumpty fall. When our morality fails us, or when our idol status is revoked and no one worships us anymore, or when we actually fall from grace and shatter into millions of pieces—too many for our reliable, supportive, and encouraging family members and friends to put us back together—perhaps this is when we will believe and trust in what the Word of God says about suffering, which mainly is that the suffering of trials not only proves our character and integrity but also tests the object and quality of our faith.